Dr. Wolfelt’s 11 Tenets of Caring for the Bereaved
by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
www.center-for loss, com
Companioning the bereaved is not about assessing, analyzing, fixing or resolving another’s grief. Instead, it is about being totally present to the mourner, even being a temporary guardian of her soul. The companioning model is anchored in the “teach me” perspective. It is about learning and observing.
If your desire is to support a ...
When someone we know in the news, an entertainment celebrity, a sports figure, fashion or music takes their own life, it sends shock waves through our fragile systems, and shock waves through the world.
We have been touched by their lives and sometimes feel personally assaulted without ever having met ...Read More
If life is a movie, Wednesday afternoon at 3 PM must have been the scene where one is called home. I took my mom to the doctor’s office. It was nothing serious. JG, our trusty caregiving friend, came with us. The first good chair in the doctor’s reception area sits near the door, behind it. “Mom, why don’t ...Read More
You are seen.
Everything is seen
No judge here
People in your world wrapped up in judgment
I do not judge
I love you into love
I love you into love beyond the highest hills and mountaintops
I love you into love beyond the greatest ocean depths
I love you into love more ...Read More
You were a warrior when young
Then the world crouched in and a worrier you became
And then you stood up and the world crouched out
And Riser you became
Regardless of the world, regardless of naysayers, of unconscious ones
A Rise you became
Rise I rise
Rising like the sun
Like perennial plants that return and come
Nothing stops sun
Nothing stops plants ...
I thought I was helping a friend over the phone when he interrupted me abruptly. I didn’t mind the interruption. I didn’t mind the abruptness. But the tone of voice was harsh, almost angry, and definitely impatient – and I felt hurt. My solar plexus hurt. I did the usual things, noticed what I was feeling, tried to calm myself, breathe, mantra, wrote a bit. Not sure why it stung so much, probably several reasons, but no matter, reasons weren’t ...Read More
I hesitated to post this piece because increasing the polarity is not my intention, but there is a lot of frustration and sadness and wonder of why we don’t have sane gun control measures in this country is.
My greater need is to understand. Understand why people are so against having sane gun control measures. It’s not about taking guns away. That will not happen in American society, but why is it that people think they need arsenals in their homes and safes. I ...
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Access to a 15-minute video meditation towards the end of this post is available to you. It was created to help you find a greater sense of self-acceptance and love. For really, it is about you, the one who watches over another. You, the Angels of Earth who, in times of love and stress, continue to ...Read More
This was first written twenty years ago after my dad passed on
This March 29th is the anniversary
Peace unto you and yours, wherever you or they may be
Honoring Trees and Loved Ones
To become comfort unto ourselves
There is nothing else but us
We are all here
Those in or out ...
This past holiday season, I walked into a store and listening to their holiday jazzy songs piped over their sound system, I waited for the clerk to help me. Waiting half-an-hour, the energy drained from my body. I craved to do nothing for a long time. Nothing. It feels good to write ...Read More
I paused and then wrote back. ““Well, that’s funny. Gratitude? I have a lot of anger and resentment these days… Not committed yet but will think on this.”
Always up for ...Read More
And if you’re someone like me, who needs a good amount of mental spaciousness and a place free of clutter, so your mind and imagination can soar, then it never fits in.
But you dutifully try until you wonder if you even care about art anymore or anything at all.
You ...Read More
Meditation & Contemplation ~
In meditation you dive deep in silence. In that dive you may initially encounter the body, including sensation and feelings, the noise of your own thoughts or the honking horn outside. But slowly you get to see that although you wear a body and it can be your ally, an instrument ...Read More
What I would love in this new year?
To paint again, with real paint!!!
Childhood Art #1
I’ve been getting rid of old stuff
Some of it really old
Like tons of things from when I was a wee tot
Sitting in the garage for decades and decades.
Do you have any of that old stuff lying around?
Old school records
Old school book reports
Old family bank statements from the ...
I sometimes wish I had a compass but anger and sadness can be a kind of compass. They can give information for life’s direction. The thing is one has to be willing to listen and see where the compass points, and then go for it. Moving in the direction that the compass spins, regardless that you may have been given only one small step to take, can be difficult if ...Read More
The Power of Story to Bring World Peace
Storytelling is as old as time itself
Through story, song and dance we have lived and loved
Created community, celebrated and grieved
We hear and tell them constantly
Stories make us uniquely human
and connect us soul to soul
~ Elizabeth Welles
The black barbershops were packed. Das wandered the street, saw another barber pole, and walked into the white ...Read More
Your voice has the power to heal.
Your voice has the power to invite energy and create.
Your voice has the power to bring you into a deeper silence.
Your voice has the power to connect you to your miraculous Self.
Earlier this year, I met a man in a hot tub—where many inspired conversations begin. ...Read More